How do we handle the uncovering of someone's secret addiction? Shock, disbelief, denial? Acceptance, absorption, assistance?  I am still in amazement about Diane Schuler, the mother who was driving on the Taconic Pkwy last week responsible for the deaths of 7 innocent people.  I just cannot understand how a mother could do what she did.  Her husband, who should be grieving, seems to be in complete denial about the conclusions from the autopsy.  I cannot imagine how the other families involved feel.  He wants his wife's body exhumed for an independent autopsy? C'mon guy, let it go.  Admit your wife did wrong.  Your wife killed 7 people.  Put your head down and grieve for those other people instead of trying to save your wife's reputation.